tonight MJ has put together a little "farewell dinner" and i'm really looking forward to it. the packing has been moving along nicely and its a little nuts that i'm actually leaving in a couple of days. i'm really excited, though.
Posted by Courtney @ Eat Pray Run DC at 1/28/2009 06:41:00 PM
so the Banker and i had dinner tonight. and now after its all said and done, all i really feel is sad. we met, had a nice dinner and for 3/4s of the evening we avoided any heavy discussion. then he decided to tell me how he felt "hurt" that i had cut him out of my life. so, i had to tell him. i told him how i was so upset by his treatment of me following the time we stopped dating, and how he did things i would never, ever do. i also told him that if i wasn't moving, we wouldn't be sitting there having dinner. i didn't go into detail, but i did mention a few things i thought were particularly shitty and told him that because i his behavior, i purposefully cut him out of my life. of course, he apologized but i stopped him in the middle of it and told him that it doesn't matter what is said now and besides, hearing him apologize just makes me so angry.
oh goodness. i haven't spent much time talking about the Ex. some of you know him and were around when we were dating (college and then some). the Ex and i dated from november of my first year of college until spring of my senior year. we officially broke up but then continued to travel together, speak daily, etc until august of 2006. that was when we REALLY stopped acting like we were in a relationship. the Ex had met someone new and was going to give it a go with her. as for me, i was in my 3L year at UVA and ready to party! so we toned things way back and proceeded to just be friends. of course, like anything else, there have been complications along the way. the Ex and i were extremely close when we dated. we spent lots of time with each others families and i loved his family, he loved mine and our respective families loved each other (which, if you know my dad says a LOT). the Ex was in a very bad car accident the summer of 2003 and afterwards, i essentially moved into his apartment for a month while he recovered. it was a big deal for me at the time to tell my father that i was moving in with my boyfriend. but what was amazing was that my dad didn't say a word. in fact, after the Ex and i broke up and he moved back to california, my dad actually called him and offered to buy him a plane ticket to fly to atlanta for my college graduation. i am still amazed by how much my dad liked the Ex. not because the Ex wasn't a great man, but because my dad is TOUGH!
yes. you read that correctly. i've decided that i am going to see the Banker before i move to dc. yes, i am beyond unhappy with how things went down over the past couple of months but i know that i would regret moving 800 miles away without telling him face to face. as MJ said, if the shoe was on the other foot, i would be quite upset if he moved away without a word.
so...this evening i was out celebrating a girlfriend's birthday and the Banker called me. per usual, i ignored his call. he left a message, asking me to call and declared "i guess we aren't friends anymore". i texted him about an hour later, saying "what's up?" he replied by asking why can't i call him. i responded that i was tied up right now, but didn't want to ignore his call. his text message back was priceless. he wrote (and i quote): "so call when ur not. what the fuck is up with u. never seen no shit like this weird." i couldn't stop smiling. not because he was all out of sorts, but because i knew that i was doing the right thing. he could not handle me ignoring his calls and refusing his invitations to hang out, come up, etc. i am finally doing things that make me feel better and am not worried about how he will take my actions and while i am feeling great, clearly he is frustrated as all hell.
dc was fantastic. we had the best time. we got in saturday afternoon, and saturday night we went to love (a huge club in the city). it was great. we saw stevie wonder there!!! i may or may not have screamed a little when i saw stevie (and i'm normally never a groupie, but i swear i couldn't help it). we also caught sight of p. diddy (stevie was much more exciting) and deshawn show from real housewives of atlanta. then on sunday we went with my mom down to the national mall for the we are one concert. it was amazing to see all those people. it was really really cool - and cold! but we had a wonderful time. later sunday night we went to park. and that was excellent. we danced a little bit and then set up shop in one of the stairwells and just talked to people all night. it was so fun. and not just because i was a little bit drunk. it was just cool to meet lots of guys :) and to flirt w/really attractive men. i had a great time. oh yeah, we saw bow wow at park, but he's such a little kid, i just couldn't get that excited about it.
Posted by Courtney @ Eat Pray Run DC at 1/22/2009 03:00:00 PM
real quick, i'm sorry i've been MIA - i'm in DC for the inauguration and having an EXCELLENT time. i'll provide a full update once i'm back in bama...until then, happy martin luther king, jr. day and go obama!
Posted by Courtney @ Eat Pray Run DC at 1/19/2009 01:52:00 PM
i read an article today that was discussing the "perfect" numer of men a woman can admit to sleeping with. the article said that the perfect number was 7. so i googled the topic and came across a few interesting stories. this huffington post article (see http://www.huffingtonpost.com/rachel-kramer-bussel/how-many-partners-makes-y_b_117350.html) i thought covered the issue pretty reasonably. but then i stumbled across a blog that had a discussion of the issue and essentially it turned into a "ho" bashing session describing women who have slept with 5 or more men in the same night. and i was reminded why these types of conversations bother me so much.
Posted by Courtney @ Eat Pray Run DC at 1/16/2009 10:30:00 PM
alright, so this past weekend in atlanta after the hookah and the "sexy drink" i went out to a bar and we met up with some of Namesake's wonderful friends from law school. of course, had a blast and i really hit it off with one particular friend, CG. so once back in bama, CG and i became fb friends. so a couple of days later, i notice when i'm looking at CG's profile that we share a mutual friend: the Banker. i'm like, hmmm...i'm pretty sure that CG and the Banker don't know each other. so i do a little investigative work and find out that the Banker friended CG almost immediately after CG and i became fb friends and she accepted, because, well that's what you do.
okay, so this is just TOO good. i've discussed the Attorney before and how we were supposed to go on a date but he was always so "busy" and so i just gave up and told him i wrote him off. and he seemed to truly think that i would wait forever. i think what he actually told me was "so if i were to ask you out in two months, you would say no?" and i was just thinking, you are so freaking arrogant!
there. i said it. i miss the Banker. no, i haven't returned his calls or his text messages and i sure as hell haven't let him "come up." but i miss him. yes, the Banker is a punk to say the least. but i miss talking to him, laughing with him and sharing funny stories with him. i miss his friendship. i'm thinking about giving him a call. i don't know. it's tough when you know that what you want isn't good for you. in the past, i've always said, fuck it. i'll do what feels good and deal with the consequences later. of course, that never ends well. so i think i'll continue on the course i've been travelling. blissful ignorance. i guess the big question is should i see him before i peace out of AL?
well, since i'm not working, i can stay up all night and play with my blog, chat online, etc etc. and i'm doing that. but i really hate sleeping in, so i'll still wake up at 9am. which would be fine if i wasn't staying up til 3am or later. ugh. then i want to take a nap, but i won't let myself. i have got to get a job. seriously. just so i can get back to keeping normal hours.
yay! comments are back! in case anyone else if having trouble, i just changed comments to pop up option. yay - i'm so happy :)
Posted by Courtney @ Eat Pray Run DC at 1/13/2009 12:57:00 AM
okay so now i'm good on the pictures, thanks to Lifeboat (a good friend from law school). but now people can't comment! boo - what's going on? stupid stupid blog that i can't figure out...if you have any tips shoot me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org -- thanks!
Posted by Courtney @ Eat Pray Run DC at 1/12/2009 11:42:00 PM
so i have to say that probably my favorite thing about living alone is the ability to blast my music and dance around like crazy...occasionally naked, sometimes clothed. but the beauty of living by myself is that no one is ever the wiser :) sure, the Dog thinks i'm crazy, but she'd never tell my secrets!
Posted by Courtney @ Eat Pray Run DC at 1/12/2009 08:23:00 PM
have y'all seen this website? it's called stuffwhitepeoplelike.com and it's hilarious. especially because the list describes many of my friends (white and black). its just a funny, funny website.
Posted by Courtney @ Eat Pray Run DC at 1/12/2009 02:49:00 AM
this weekend i traveled to atlanta for a friend's birthday. she decided she wanted to have dinner at divan a restaurant and hookah bar. (http://www.divanatlanta.com/hook.html in case you're interested) it was really fun and i plan on sharing.
Posted by Courtney @ Eat Pray Run DC at 1/12/2009 02:23:00 AM
i am attempting to spice things up over here at life and times of sasha fierce. please bear with me as i am NOT computer literate so things might look a little rough for awhile. also, i had a wonderful evening in atlanta last night that i fully intend to share...more to come soon!
Posted by Courtney @ Eat Pray Run DC at 1/12/2009 12:11:00 AM
can someone explain to me what twitter is? i suppose i could go google it and get the whole scoop, but i'm really looking for a current twitter person (what are they called? twits? haha - okay i'm corny) to explain the deal to me. i feel like everywhere i go and every blog i read has links to someone's twitter page or whatever it is. someone? anyone?
so the new season of the real world starts tonight and i'm kind of excited and if it's any good, i'll share my thoughts! this season they are in brooklyn, which is cool. although, i've always wondered why the real world never went to atlanta?? it seems like such a natural choice? or dc? come on, mtv!
the Banker called me last night and left me a pretty nice, normal message. i didn't call back because i really just don't want to talk to him yet, you know? so i emailed him instead, saying i got his message, i'm doing well, and would be happy to do lunch sometime, but i'm quite busy this week. i also said to let me know what his schedule is, because i know he's in NYC quite frequently visiting his new girlfriend. :) he replied back that he would love to do lunch or dinner whenever i'm free.
Posted by Courtney @ Eat Pray Run DC at 1/07/2009 10:27:00 PM
today AHS said to me, "it was so sad to read your story about the Banker". honestly, i thought that was just the sweetest thing anyone could say about that whole situation. it made me think about all the wonderful people in my life. i'm happy that AHS is one of them. he's pretty awesome and gives me some great material to write about to boot :)
so i'm curious. does anyone know anyone (personally, not one of those fairy tales, my friend's cousin's sister's brother's aunt stories) who has successfully used internet dating to meet someone? i see all these commercials and i guess it might work, but i don't personally know anyone (at least i don't think i do) who's used it to any success. i have some friends who've played around with it before, but lost interest i think. just curious.
so today my dad, the Dog and i drove back down to bham. i'm going to continue my job search from here, at least through the end of the month. i do a lot of complaining about the Parents, but they are pretty awesome. not everyone's dad would drive 13 hours with them (and a hyper dachshund). my dad is so cute -- he's like "you and your mom have to start getting along better". i'm like, we get along fine - as long as we're not under the same roof! he's right though, i mean my mom's a little crazy and i'm a little. but she's older so i guess that means i should be the one to bend. sigh. it could be much worse.
i am tired of the Banker. i am tired of thinking about him, i am tired of writing about him and i am tired of talking about him. and i thought i was okay with everything that had happened and okay with where things are. which, by the way, is really nowhere. i thought i was fine.